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All the Gay Shows have my Heart

Do you guys remember when The N was a thing? I miss that channel to this day.

Listen I still have vivid memories of being eight years old, curled up on the couch, being so tired and staying up obscenely late just to catch Degrassi: The Next Generation. Guys fucking commercials were still a thing. My poor little soul had to stay awake for an entire hour, through commercials, just to watch my show.

The struggle was ridiculously real.

Can we talk about Degrassi though? It was ridiculously ahead of it’s time. I mean that was 2002 for Christ sake and it handled topics like sex, pregnancy, any and all kinds of abuse, drugs, bullying, self image, sexuality, self injury, mental illness, suicide, abortion, domestic violence, death, racism – all from teenagers povs. Also it had teenagers playing teenagers, which is still unheard of.

(It was so hard hitting that my mother made me put together a report on why I should be allowed to watch it ahaha. I did, and I got to continue it, so I guess I passed?)

Degrassi aired for 14 solid seasons and even though I’m pretty sure I stopped after 9 (it moved channels and all the original characters were gone) it was definitely with me from ages 12-16 which, let’s be real, are not fun for everyone.

(I’m having a lot of nostalgia right now)

Degrassi was important to me for a lot of reasons. The teenage perspective hit home, the episodes dealt with shit that were really happening in our world, but there were certain things that stuck out to me more than others. Or, should we say, certain characters.

Care to take a guess on why? Don’t worry, I’ll give you a hint:

Wow. Can we talk about this oldschool gif quality. Also I want to point out that both of the blondes are siblings. Gays come in packages ya’ll.

 

So Marco and Dylan started up in the 3rd season, which would have made me…10ish? 11ish? It was the absolute first time I had ever seen a same sex relationship on tv and I was living.  I was so invested in the turmoil of Marco and Dylan’s relationship. From Marco coming to terms with his sexuality, to Dylan being frustrated when he wouldn’t come out, to breakups and heartaches and gawd. I cried over these two.

(I also wrote a shit ton of DylanxMarco fanfics so you can thank them for getting me into queer writing my babies)

Thinking back on it I’m pretty sure Dylan was Not a Good Guy but at the time. At the time, they were on a teen drama. A gay couple. In the 2000s. There was at least someone who didn’t treat homosexuality like it was an adult subject. Good Guy or not, at least he fucking existed.

Paige and Alex were a messy relationship too, but their struggles were real. And I think that’s also important. I’m usually against being invested in relationships that just break up but. Teenagers turn into adults, they grow and change, and you can’t always take people with you. Relationships are hard. (Look what this show taught me!)

(someone buy it for me so I can rewatch and cry alot)

Anyway.

You guys wanna know what came on after Degrassi? South of Nowhere.

(Yeah, my ass was staying up even later God help my little gay self.)

Listen. Listen. SoN focused primarily on a girl falling in love with her bisexual friend. Yeah, sounds exactly like something 11yr old Char would be into, right? SoN went hard like Degrassi did and handled a lot of the same subjects, it also focused in on teen life, but the cast was smaller so you got to really see how shit effected everyone, especially in a nuclear family.

(Also I’m pretty sure Ashley Davies (Mandy Musgrave) was my first girl crush? Look at her? What a babe?)

SoN only ran for three seasons which I still think is pretty damn good given the time and that it was on a teen network. I’ve seen it all more than once over the years. The homophobia was strong in this one, but it was also good in that it showed some people be unquestionably in the girls corner, and others who came around once they got used to it. And it ended on a happy note! With the girls still together! Can you handle that?! (NEITHER OF THEM DIED -gasp of shock-)

God this show. I had a lot of love for this show.

I want to rewatch it again holy shit this road is not good for me and my need to reignite my feels.

Okay lets move on shall we?

Yeah I know, who doesn’t love Ellen? But for real, let’s talk about her and her show for a moment. I could literally write a hundred blog posts on her alone but I’m going to try to keep it down to the highlights and why she means so much to me personally.  I don’t really remember how old I was when I started watching Ellen, though it was between 13-18. I would come home after school and my mom and I would watch it together. It was her pick (which, yes, is important, see words written below).

One day my mom mentioned that Ellen was gay and my feet nearly came out form under me. This woman? With her talk show and her millions of viewers? That everyone seemed to genuinely like? That my mom liked? A woman of power? A gay woman of power? No way.

Yes way.

I think maybe Ellen opened the door for my mom and I to have a lot of talks about being lgbt and what that meant for people. I grew up in a religious state, in a Christian household, so there was always the stigma that ‘being gay will send you to hell’, but I challenged that. How could a woman like Ellen, who helped so many people, who promoted kindness, who lived and loved, be going to the worst place imaginable just because who she loved happened to be another woman? (also can we just.)

My mom agreed with me, she couldn’t imagine it either.

So here’s what Ellen gave me: a role model, someone to look up to, and someone that my mom liked. If she could like a gay woman she didn’t even know, then surely she would still like me, right? Right.

I didn’t find Queer as Folk

or The L Word

until I was in college but whew, boy, did I not watch anything else for awhile.

QaF was the first hour-long American tv drama to follow the lives of gay men (and a lesbian couple). It came out in 2000, and was followed by The L Word in 2004. (Maybe those years were gayer than they seem?) But, they were both very adult oriented and were released on Showtime. Ya’ll, Showtime goes hard. You can almost get a homo sex ed class out of these shows LOL.

QaF handled a lot of important topics but I think the ones that stood out to me the most were the HIV storylines and Queer Bashing. The latter was a hard hit, and a reminder that homophobia can go farther than a few harsh words.

Truth be told, they’re not the best shows in the world. The L Word especially is messy the later the seasons get. But, their entire character casts are queer, they’re wrapped up in queer culture, and they’re fun to watch. I thoroughly enjoyed them.

(well, except for maybe the last season of The L Word. Can we pretend that one didn’t exist?)

Alright I’m almost done, and I’m going to go out crying probably, because I’m never going to be over how amazing Sense8 was and how fucked up it was of Netflix to cancel it.

This show, guys. This show had it all, but for the purpose of staying on topic: It was written by a transwoman, included two same sex relationships, a lesbian WOC as well as two gay men from Mexico, and a lesbian trans woman. But most importantly, these characters were handled with respect. None of the drama in the show was about their relationships. Was Lito struggling with his sexuality and coming out? Sure. But when they talked about it, it was true to heart. It was issues that we’ve all faced, and advice that hit home. Was there transphobia? Absolutely. But again, it was handled right.

No one’s life was over because they were different. They learned to take who they were and become stronger.

Sense8 was a show on a major streaming network that had an interesting plot, a diverse cast, and didn’t kill off their lgbtq+ characters for shock value. It was important, and even though it crushes my soul that we’ll never know what happened to anyone because season 2 ends on a cliffhanger and Netflix is a dick, I urge you to watch it. Because it’s simply beautifully done, and it deserves all the attention in the world.

Alright, so, there’s the list of TV shows that have somehow inspired my life in a positive way, and made my days just a little brighter!

Enjoy your binge session 😉

All the best,
Char

 

EDIT: Since posting this, Netflix has finally paid attention to the half a million fans throwing a fit and has agreed to giving Sense8 a 2hr special to close up. So proud of everyone who fought for it.

Just Juliet and Race

I’ve thought about making this post for awhile now. I’ve thought about how I would word it, what I would say, where the line between ‘making excuses’ and ‘explaining myself’ was. At the end of the day I’m not sure there’s a way to write this without making someone, somewhere, unhappy. But. I felt like this was important enough it at least needed to be brought up.

Just Juliet doesn’t get low star reviews a lot, and that’s not meant to sound like I’m bragging, but meant to say that when it does, I pay attention to them. I want to know what someone didn’t like enough to vocalize their distaste. I want to know what I can do to fix it in later stories.

A few I don’t have control over – my writing style, the way I plot, some mistakes the editors made. A lot are from people who obviously don’t come from a generation that use insults as terms of endearment. Some are from homo/biphobes. Whatever. Can’t win them all.

But, mostly, when something negative is brought up, it’s in terms of race. Namely, how I write about it.

Here’s a little about me: I was born and raised in the South, in a white family, my Grandparents went to segregated schools, there were three African American kids in my own school – two were mixed and one raised by white parents. We had a few families from Mexico, but otherwise, my home town was predominantly, strongly – white.

It’s something I’ve been trying to pay attention to since college. To notice how the world treats other races, to check my white privilege, to do better. Slowly but surely, I am trying.

Here’s a little backstory on Just Juliet, and why race is handled the way it is:

When it was written and originally put up on Wattpad, Lacey was the only POC. And after it was finished, with 2.5k readers, only a handful finished the book knowing Lacey was black. Rereading it, it crushed me that I had somehow managed to whitewash my book so badly..

So while in the editing process, I tried to fix it. I tried to pull on things that would make Lacey’s race more noticeable, and decided to change some of the other background characters races too. Kiki, Georgia’s boyfriend Chris, Matt. (Actually, no one complains about Matt, but that makes me wonder if it’s because no one remembers he’s hispanic?)

Did the main cast stay white? Yes. I thought about making Lena biracial for a little while, but in the end I decided I didn’t have enough of a grasp on what it means to be biracial to write her that way. It wasn’t my story to tell. Lakyn, Juliet, and Scott fell under the same rules, because I could write stories from all their POVs eventually. 

This review, specifically, calls out the mistake I still made:

I almost put the book down five pages in because of how casually racist the descriptions of the supporting characters were. Like, wow, your token asian has very conservative parents and loves math?? you have a character who has a ”beautiful multiracial baby”, and the dad’s out of the picture?but it’s totally cool, because your bland white girl MC has a best friend who’s black and *~coincidentally~* combative and promiscuous?”

Maybe I’m going to regret speaking my thoughts from here on but *deep breath* I didn’t realize I was stereotyping. (I take full responsibility for the line “Lacey went so white she could almost pass for caucasian” because yeah, that’s gross, but I was trying to find any and every way that I could point out she wasn’t, that it just…slipped in. Someone should honestly take that out. Publishing team – if you’re reading, do us a solid?)

So what have I learned? That I should try to do better. I shouldn’t have walked into a book throwing races around with a limited time frame and even more limited research.

So this is me acknowledging that I fucked up.

And I will do my best to not do it again.

Okay that’s all I had to say.

Best,

Char

Just Juliet: Where Are The Happy Gays?

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Just Juliet Book Club Questions

+ How do you think you would react if you were in Lena’s shoes when she first met Scott and his boyfriend?

+ Do you agree or disagree with Mr. James’ decision to let Lena spend the night with Juliet? What would you handle differently?

+ What are your views on the fact that Mr. James lets Scott stay with Lakyn? Do these views change from the beginning of the book to the end?

+ Have you ever felt the way Lena does about Juliet for someone?

+ Do you think the teenagers accurately represent kids of their same age in this time?

+ How do you think the parents’ reaction to their children being gay affected their relationship? How do you think Lakyn’s parents’ rejection affected his personality, or Scott’s parents’ refusal affected his?

+ If you’re LGBT+, have you ever had a friend react to your coming out the way Lacey did? How did you feel about it?

+ Are you the Token Heterosexual to anyone? How did you react to someone coming out to you? Would you do it differently now?

+ Have you ever had a nightmare like the one Lena has about her grandfather in chapter ten?

+ Have you ever had a secret like Lena’s? Was it hard to tell people about?

+ How would you react if you child came out as LGBT? What if you happened to just find out, like Scott’s parents did?

+ Do you understand Kiki’s reaction to the news? Do you agree with Lena’s decision to continue their friendship, despite their differences?

+ Do you agree with Juliet and Lena’s decision to break up? Or do you think they should have figured something else out?

+ Do you think things would have been different if Juliet had told Lena she was leaving?

+ What is the significance of the title?

+ Do you feel the themes of the book were adequately explored?

+ What scene meant the most to you? Why?

+ What surprised you most about the book?

+ Were there any particularly quotes that stood out to you? Why?

+ If you could smack any of the characters upside the head, who would it be? Why?

+ Were there moments when you disagreed with the choices the characters made? What would you have done instead?

+ Did you like the ending? If not where do you think it should have ended / what would you do differently?

+ How have the characters changed by the end of the story?

+ How have you changed by the end of the story?

+ What did you learn or take away from the book?

+ What do you think will happen next to the main characters?

On Matt Alvarez

Trick Tag


Character’s Full Name: Matthew Esteban Alvarez

Name Origin: Matt’s parents made a list of names and didn’t pick one until he was three days old when they decided on one that fit his personality the best. .

Nicknames: Matt, by most people; Matty Boy, by Scott and sarcastically by Lakyn.

Birth Date: February 28

Religion: Matt was raised in a non-religious home but doesn’t treat people who are religious any differently. He lives by his own morals and desire to be a good person.

Physicality: Matt’s written as tall, with tan skin, dark curly hair, and a cricked smile. He used to be a little self conscious about that smile, but eventually decided he looked better smiling than not smiling, and as long as he was happy who cared? He’s got a bit of a taste for name brands, but generally dresses like every other teenage male. He used to wear socks with sandals and his gym shorts, but Scott broke him of the habit.  Height: 6’2 | Weight: 189lbs | Shirt Size: L | Chest: 45in | Waist: 34in | Shoe Size: 11

SexualityHeteroflexible. While he wouldn’t personally label himself as anything other hetero, Matt is honestly open minded to the idea that he could fall in love with just about anyone. Although he sees his future married to a woman with children, if the person was special enough, gender wouldn’t matter to him in the end.

Scars & Tattoos:  Matt has a few scars from being tumbly as a kid, but nothing particularly out of the ordinary. Tattoos and piercings aren’t really his thing, but he probably gets something stupid on Friday the 13th that he regrets for the rest of his life. He possibly let’s Lena draw him something to cover it up later.

Personality Facts: Loyal, kind, fun to be around, flirty, easygoing, levelheaded, calm, usually the mediator.

Quirks: Can taste individual ingredients in a meal, dyslexic, loves old movies, quite the optimist.

Skills/Talents: Athletic, good at wood work, knows how to cross stitch, surprisingly awful at video games.

Phobias/FearsSpiders

Favorite-

  • +Food: Hangover Hamburger
  • +Drink: Blue Gatorade
  • +Alcoholic Drink: Heineken
  • +Color: Burnt Orange
  • +Film: The Breakfast Club
  • +Music: Soft Rock
  • +Motto: “The best thing to be is yourself.”

So, if you could pick someone to represent Matt, who would it be? 
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These boys are going to kill me I swear. Matt isn’t even described in a restricting way and yet the image that i have of him in my head is so clear? I’ve spent longer than I’d like to admit looking for someone but…with no luck. I will say though that Marlon Teixeira inspired his looks a little…or, at the very least, them curls did. I think his face is a little soft for Matt, and obviously his age is off, but ya know. What’s a girl to do?


Have you ever wanted to know something about Matt? Ask in the comments!

On Lacey Parker


Character’s Full Name: Lacey Anne Parker

Name Origin: Lacey was named just because her mother wanted a particularly feminine name for their daughter, and figured the best way to do that would be to name her after lace. It was a theme in her baby book, and for a few years after that. Her middle name comes from Saint Anne, the mother of Mary and grandmother of Jesus.

Nicknames: Lace; on occasion. Various curse words; by Lena

Birth Date: August 8th

Religion: Lacey was raised mostly Baptist, although her mother was a Catholic convert. While her parents are very committed in church activities, and Lacey herself is still very religious, the strict rules do not keep her from living her life how she feels fit. Her choices and her path are between her and God, and of no one elses concern.

Physicality: Lacey picked up most of her physical traits from her mother, although there are times she greatly resembles her father. She has thick dark hair which she generally works on to keep straight, and dark skin. Being a cheerleader gives her an athletic but slim build (Lena also notes she has a nice ass), and she dresses rather fashionably.  Height: 5’9″ | Weight: 132lbs | Shirt Size: S/M | Bra Size: 37B | Pants Size: 3 | Shoe Size: 8.5

Sexuality: Heterosexual. This is something Lacey has never had to consider, even after Lena came out. She’s never felt any kind of attraction to the same sex. It’s safe to assume, out of curiosity, that she might experiment in her college years, but all it would do is serve as a reminder that she is, in fact, strictly-dickly

Scars, Piercings & Tattoos: Lacey has a couple of scars from cheerleading accidents (rather on the field or in her front yard), a notable few which are on her knees, and one on her palm from a particularly stubborn rock that got stuck there once. Like most girls, both of Lacey’s ears are pierced. She also gets her navel pierced, and the forward helix of her ear done (where she wears three diamonds). I’m not sure if she ever gets tattoos, although for some reason I have a feeling she’d only ever get one. If she did, it’d likely be some kind of geometric shape, done on her hip.

Personality Facts: Assertive, loyal, brutally honest, can be bitchy, loving, a bit of a tease, self assured.

Quirks: Nicer than she likes to let on, incredibly organized and well structured, extremely confident, whiny when things don’t go her way. Likes to party but also likes to study.

Skills/Talents: Highly intelligent, skilled in gymnastics, very good at debate.

Phobias/Fears: Heights, mostly.

Favorite-

  • +Food: Salads – she honestly loves them, the more creative the better
  • +Drink: Lime Water
  • +Alcoholic Drink: Mimosas
  • +Color: Gold
  • +Film: Legally Blonde
  • +Music: Most forms of pop
  • +Motto: “Wake up. Kick ass. Repeat.”

So, if you could pick someone to represent Lacey, who would it be? 
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I saw Amber Stevens on some tv show that I don’t even watch one day and was like ‘her. I like her’. I don’t think there’s been anyone else I’ve ever quite liked as much. I did look for a long time, because Amber is actually half white, but in the end the only people I liked more than her were nameless tumblr beauties. *shrugs*


Have you ever wanted to know something about Lacey? Ask in the comments!

How to Survive the Holidays

Mostly a Christmas post but Thanksgiving can be substituted.

“Happy Holidays!”

Eh.

I thought about how I was going to do this post more than once. I considered not doing it, I thought about making it funny, or about simply whining for my own selfish purposes, and then…I thought about the facts.

  1. Christmas has the highest incident of depression out of the entire year. [X]
  2. 45% of Americans dread the holiday. [X]
  3. The children are hyped up on sugar and LIES. [X]

In our community especially… the pressure is high. Too many closeted kids, or too many family members with uncomfortable smiles and wary eyes at their gay nephews and nieces. Too many conservative thoughts you disagree with so violently it makes your stomach hurt. Too many people who can’t go home at all. Too many people on diets or in AA. Struggling with depression when all the cheer only reminds you how “not normal” you are. Struggling with anxiety and the fear of the social part of it, the questions, the reactions to gifts that you haven’t perfected yet. Going in tired before its even started.

The struggle is real, guys.

So let’s try to make it a little easier?

Stress-

  1. Realize this isn’t going to be easy. Accept it. Do your best anyway.
  2. Stop putting unreasonable pressure on yourself to be happy. Take a deep breath, take it slow. Let the little things make you smile.
  3. Seek out the people you know you can be yourself with. Stick close to them.
  4. Watch your alcohol intake. While a few drinks may make you feel better, too much will make you feel worse. Alcohol is a depressant.
  5. Too much sugar, carbs, and caffeine will also drag you down. Enjoy your treats, don’t overdo it.
  6. Try to get a goods night rest before family activities.
  7. Keep your expectations low.
  8. Remember. You’re going to be okay.
  9. Schedule a Self Care day for right after the holidays.
  10. Keep a drink in your hand (doesn’t have to be alcohol). It gives you something to fidget with, something to cover up that expression you let slip, or something to avoid answering a question with.

Family-

  1. It’s likely your family members are the same exact people they were last year. You probably are too. This could get tricky, but you can do it.
  2. Remember that after this day… your life is going to be exactly as you left it.
  3. Get up, sit somewhere else, start a new conversation.
  4. I know it feels personal, but it likely isn’t. Grit your teeth, let it roll of your shoulders. [X]
  5. If you absolutely have to say something, be polite. Remain calm. People don’t typically respond well to yelling.
    • + Interesting fact, people tend to listen only to reply, especially when things get heated. Statements will often earn you arguments, arguments will get you nowhere. Try presenting your case in the form of a question, see what happens.
  6.  Remember that most people believe things because they were raised that way and they probably don’t know any better. Likely, they don’t want to be the Bad Person.
  7. Remember that some people are just dicks and there’s nothing you can do about that.
    • + Advice: avoid them as much as possible.
  8. If you have triggers, know them, identify them, be prepared for them.
    • + Take a walk. Go to the bathroom, wash your face. Text your friend. Take a breath, count to ten. Healthy coping mechanisms people. (It’s okay to take meds, its okay to use essential oils, its okay to have to call your sponsor.)
  9.  Try emotionally distancing yourself. Pretend your a social scientist and its your job to study how these people act in their natural environment.
  10. If you have to, just don’t go home. That’ll be complicated, but weigh the pros and cons. Which struggle is worth it?

LGBTQIA-

  1. If you haven’t read the other lists (save ‘if you’re alone’ – unless you’re not going home), do that. So that I don’t have to repeat things.
  2. You’re probably not the only ‘family disappointment’. Make alliances. Your cousin that dropped out of college? Yeah, chill with her. The uncle that still hasn’t gotten married or had kids and grandma’s Annoyed™, he’s probably cool too.
  3.  Set boundaries. You don’t have to answer their questions. Say no. “You’re making me uncomfortable and I don’t appreciate it,” is a thing you can say.
  4. Don’t jump down someone’s throat for getting things wrong. Either laugh it off, or educate them. If you’re the only queer in the family, they likely just Don’t Know. Ignorance is widespread.
    • + Also keep in mind that you might not be the only queer, and the closeted kids are looking at you as an example.
  5. If you’re recently out, expect it to be awkward. Remember, this isn’t news to you – but it is to them.
  6. If you’re transgender, your pronouns will probably be forgotten (especially if this is new, or people are rude). Take a deep breath, kindly remind them.
  7. If you need it / are comfortable with it – take your significant other or a friend. Then the two of you can laugh about the drama, and you have a built in support system.
  8. Just showing up is a victory. You can leave early. It’s okay.
  9. If they make a stupid, homophobic joke – you don’t have to laugh. Look them in the eye and ask them why it’s funny. (That’s confrontational, you don’t have to do it lol).
  10. You are valid. You are lovable. You are important.

Ways to turn your perspective around | Aka: be positive-

  1. Remember why we have this holiday. Be gracious, be loving.
  2. If you know you aren’t going to feel bright and shiny after hanging out with these people, do your best to make them feel bright and shiny. Be the cheer bringer instead of the receiver.
  3. Keep in mind that you might not be the only one having a hard time.
  4. Don’t ruin it for the children. They’re brand new and they’re hopes are still untarnished. Let them stay little while they can.
  5. The night will end, and you will go home.
  6. One or two bad apples don’t ruin the whole bunch. Remember there are people you’re related to that you actually like.
  7. Play with the kids if you can’t handle the adults. They’ll love you for it.

If you’re alone during the holidays-

  1.  Volunteer at a shelter or a soup kitchen. Visit a nursing home.
  2. Go out – (Call ahead to places if you’re not sure).
    • + Chinese and Jewish restaurants and national chains are almost always open.
    • + As are most movie theaters.
    • + If you live in a large city, Tourist attractions are usually open. Museums too.
    • + Skating rinks generally are too.
    • + Get a room at a hotel, they often offer Christmas packages. Go to the spa, get a massage.
    • + Go for a walk or a hike in a park.
    • + If you’re religious, attend a church service (attend a lot if you’re interested in church hopping).
  3. Do some DIY projects. Read that book you’ve been putting off. Binge a new TV show. Write a book. Draw a comic.
  4. Eat. You have to eat. And drink water.
  5. If you can afford it, take a trip. Go somewhere where its still warm, or somewhere you’ve always wanted to see at Christmas. Join a Singles Group if you don’t want to go alone.
  6. If you don’t like the silence, fill your iPod and take it with you everywhere. Even better, don’t put any holiday music on it.
  7. For Thanksgiving. Consider a Friendsgiving. You likely aren’t the only one not going home. (FriendsChristmas could work too honestly it’s just more rare).

Need something else? Google-

  1. How to survive the holidays when you have a drinking habit.
  2. How to survive the holidays when you have an eating disorder.
  3. How to survive the holidays after the death of a loved one.
  4. How to survive the holidays when you’re broke.
  5. More results on depression.
  6. More results on anxiety.
  7. More for LGBT.

Remember that in most situations, even if they’re hard to take, these people are your family and they love you.

Hotlines and Resources-

 

Stay safe. Lots of love,

Char.

 

A lot of info for this post was taking from The Huffington Post, Web MD, Mental Health Now, Buzzfeed, and Psychology Today.

On Scott White


Character’s Full Name: Scott Alexander White

Name Origin: Scott was another one of those kids that was named just because his parents liked the way it sounded and not for any real reason. Originally they intended to call him Alexander Scott, but decided that it was likely people would start calling him ‘Alex’ which they didn’t really care for, so they switched the order.

Nicknames: Scotty, when he was younger and occasionally still by Matt (sometimes sarcastically by Lakyn); Baby, by Lakyn; Scotty Scott, by Lena.

Birth Date: July 31st

Religion: Scott was turned off of religion from a young age, mostly because he was raised in a Fear God environment with overbearing parents. When he came to terms with his sexuality he began to lean strongly in the ‘atheist’ lane. It’s not particularly something he talks about often, but when asked he still participates in religious activities with his self-made family, if only out of respect.

Physicality: Scott’s noted as being tall, broad shouldered, and usually tan. He has chocolate brown eyes, brown hair, and a sunshine smile. Football and a general enjoyment of working out keeps his body in good shape. His fashion sense is mostly jeans and teeshirts, and he rarely gives what he’s wearing a second thought (often to Lakyn’s annoyance).  Height: 5’11” | Weight: 174lbs | Shirt Size: M | Chest: 42in | Waist: 34in | Shoe Size: 10

Sexuality: Gay. Scott came out of the closet at the tail end of his Sophomore year in high school. It wasn’t particularly a good experience, but it could have been worse. Although his sexuality caused some waves at school, Scott managed to hold onto his popularity. Unfortunately, his real problems came from home. Most of his extended family cut ties, his father decided to have nothing to do with him, and his mother never quite got over it. Scott dealt with the hurt and turned to the James family to fill the gap they left.

Scars & Tattoos: Scott was a rough and tumbley kid so he has quite a collection of scars, but nothing really eye catching. I doubt he’d be the type to get many tattoos, but he’d probably get one with Lakyn (Likely something like this, though probably on their shoulder blades instead of their wrists).

Personality Facts: Talkative, optimistic, easy to really talk to, loyal, brave, such a jock.

Quirks: Gayer than he seems, doesn’t really handle personal stress (known to be a bit of a drinker), likes to party a little too much, not particularly academic smart but common sense smart, likes scary movies even though he’s a chicken.

Skills/Talents: Athletic, good at baking, fairly good at advice, knows how to understand situations from multiple perspectives.

Phobias/FearsClowns

Favorite-

  • +Food: Hawaiian Pizza
  • +Drink: Mountain Dew
  • +Alcoholic Drink: Jack Daniels
  • +Color: Navy Blue
  • +Film: Friday Night Lights
  • +Music: Alternative Rock
  • +Motto: “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says ‘I’ll try again tomorrow’.” (Mary Ann Radmacher.)

So, if you could pick someone to represent Scott, who would it be? 

*Throws hands up angrily in the air* *proceeds to have five minute long tantrum* *slowly comes back to the computer*. I read somewhere once that the brain cannot make up faces. That even when you dream or imagine, you pick a face that you have seen somewhere, at sometime. If this is true I need the guy that ‘inspired’ Scott to call me ASAP because I am convinced this kid does not exist. The irony of this situation is that Scott has one of the most simple physical descriptions and yet…*long suffering sigh*.

Zac Efron isn’t a horrible choice (although if it were a movie now he’d be much too old for the role. Which, let’s be real, my entire fancast would be too old). I’ve always been a fan of his smile (which is definitely bright enough to be Scott’s). And that jawline. Whuddup.

Considered Chace Crawford too. He’s got a nice smile. Hey! Scott broke the hair pattern! Lol.

Not completely happy with those choices buuuut. It is what it is I suppose.


Have you ever wanted to know something about Scott? Ask in the comments!

Let’s talk about life as a student in Hogwarts

I saw these on tumblr and I just wanted to do them so!

1. What house will you be in?

2. If the sorting hat was on you and it said you’d be great in a house you didn’t consider before, will you follow his advice or choose what house you want?

(there are no other houses LOL)

3. What kind of animal would you bring to school?

4. If you were in class, where would you normally sit?

(close to the front for sure)

5. What do you think you’ll be doing right now?

(chillin)

6. What’s the core of your wand?

7. Do you think you’ll be part of the quidditch team?

(I want to say yes because I love Quidditch SO FREAKING MUCH, but I’m incredibly unathletic. Maybe I’d be commentator? Except I’m blind too… *long suffering sigh* spectator it is.)

8. Will you be part of any organization???

(Eh I’d think about it, but likely would be too lazy to actually join. Unless some shit went down again…I like to think I’d be brave enough to join the DA or some shit.)

9. Will you go home during holidays?

(I’m actually not a fan of holiday’s, so I’d likely stay at Hogwarts…if, ya know, my mother let me LOL.)

10. Do you think you’ll have friends from other houses?

11. What will you pack for school?

(Just the usual stuff I suppose. Plus, like, lots of stuff to write on. Should there be a more interesting answer to this question?)

12. How about when going home for holidays, what will you bring home?

13. Would you consider studying in another wizarding school?

(I’m sure Ilvermorny is nice and all but…no thanks.)

14. Do you think you’ll be a prefect or head girl/boy?

(I’m not really a fan of the ‘responsibility’ thing.)

15. Are you going to be a pure-blood or half-blood or muggle-born?

(based on this I personally would be a pureblood. B u t, my mother would be a muggle born and my father would be a squib. So, I guess that would make me a half-blood.)

16. Will you be related to any wizarding family?

(If we go with the idea that my mother would be a muggle born…probably not. At least, not closely.)

17. Will you be a student who gets into trouble a lot?

(I mean…probably at least a little bit)

18. Do you think you’ll get a lot of detention? For what reason/s?

(not too much trouble ya’ll)

19. On hogsmeade visits, what shops will you go to?

(all of them? Dervish & Banges and Scrivenshaft’s Quill Shop the most probably)

20. Will you read Hogwarts: A History?

21. Do you think you’ll get a lot of letters from home? How frequent do you think you’ll get them?

(honestly, probably not a lot. I’d likely send more than I got.)

22. Will you subscribe to the daily prophet or the quibbler or other wizarding world media?

(yes. all of them)

23. Which part of the castle will be your favorite?

(not a bad place for a bath.)

24. Do you think you’ll be a fan of wizard music?

(honestly who wouldn’t be with lyrics like ‘spin around like a crazy elf, dancin’ by herself)

25. Will you be curious enough to try and explore the whole castle, even if you know you can get in trouble for visiting some parts of it?

26. How frequent will your visits to the library be?

(i’d live there)

30. On your o.w.l.s, what subject/s will you get an O in? Which ones do you think you’ll get a T on?

(Given that no one’s gotten a T in like centuries I doubt I’d end up with one somehow. I’m not sure if I’d have an O either though. Probably just a lot of E’s. Same for my n.e.w.t.s -which was the next question.)

31. What wizard snack would be your favorite? Or which one would you like to try?

32. Will you collect chocolate frog cards?

33. What quidditch team (excluding hogwarts houses) will you support?

(Puddlemere United because it’s the team Wood goes on to play for.)

34. What will your boggart be?

(PROBABLY THIS LITTLE SHIT. THATS NOT FUNNY PARVATI)

35. Will you stay in the hog’s head or the three broomsticks?

36. If you are of age, will you try to enter the triwizard tournament if they ever host one again?

37. Will you see the thestrals carrying the carriages?

(thankfully, no)

38. Will you consider becoming a professor in hogwarts after school?

39. What would your patronus be?

(according to Pottermore, it’s a Nebelung Cat, which seems accurate)

40. What year are you suppose to be in right now?

(lol. Graduate)

I spent a ridiculous amount of time looking for images to answer these questions with SO I hope you at least enjoyed it lol

To find your house, wand and patronus you can visit https://www.pottermore.com/ 🙂